Well, I Need Some Extra Relationship Advice.

"Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW." (aya-yu) 05/19/2014 at 06:56 • Filed to: None

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Well, i guess i need extra bits of that relationship, so i'll ask you again this time. Here's a Bentley Mulsanne Limousine by Carat Duchatelet for your problems. You know, sometimes standard Bentley is no longer exclusive anymore.

And now, the problem.

As we know, a few weeks ago i start dating my ex again, right?

And, i fell in love with her, and somehow i didn't really love my girl anymore. Until last night, while having a dinner with my ex, she told me that she's in love with her co-worker, and somehow now i haz a sad.

And my girl, well, she's now being eaten by her job that she didn't even bother to reply my text anymore. Seriously. I haven't heard anything from her since the past 2 months or so.

And now i got this idea comes to my mind:

Should i get out from both of my girl and my ex's life?

I mean, i didn't love my girl as much as i love my ex, and i can't see my ex date another man. It's just won't happen.

Or should i get out for my girl's life, and try to get back with my ex by hoping i pull something magical out of my ass?

Or, should i wait for my girl until she had a free time and have some quality time together so i hope i can forgot my ex completely.

Halp.

beardsbynelly - Rikerbeard > Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. 05/19/2014 at 07:00

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ditch 'em both, acquire money.

Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. > beardsbynelly - Rikerbeard 05/19/2014 at 07:04

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Well, extra monies are good as well.

Otto-the-Croatian-'Whoops my Volvo is a sedan' > Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. 05/19/2014 at 07:07

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If you still feel something for your ex, I don't think you should see anyone else, it's not fair towards the new girl. Make sure that you can't get back with your ex (be it because she doesn't want you anymore, or it just doesn't work or whatever), so that you can get over her.
When you do get over her, and don't feel like you need her anymore, then date someone new.
I dunno, just my 2 cents.

A Bentley for a Bentley.

Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. > Otto-the-Croatian-'Whoops my Volvo is a sedan' 05/19/2014 at 07:14

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Well, that's true.

I guess the problem is, i know and love my ex for way too long (6 years), so it's not easy to get over her..

Vicente Esteve > Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. 05/19/2014 at 07:42

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It depends how much your current partner loves you. I mean, its not like you will tell her you don't want to continue the relationship any given tuesday with her loving you a lot. If both of you don't care that much, then let it die. Then, if you do love your ex so much, try to go for her and remember not to do anything that made you break up in the first place. If your ex goes with another guy, then Im left without ideas.

samssun > Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. 05/19/2014 at 07:57

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How old are you, with all this talk of being in love? Re-prioritize: career/money, then gym, then cars, then the rest of your life, then them.

Sounds like a combination of one-itis and scarcity mentality. Get some other plates spinning and you'll stop obsessing over old gfs and switch to abundance mentality.

samssun > Vicente Esteve 05/19/2014 at 07:59

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"remember not to do anything"? Sad state men have been reduced to, trying to appease fickle girls and wondering why it never works. Try living on your own terms, and let her tag along if she can behave.

Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. > samssun 05/19/2014 at 08:29

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Age speaking, 22. But sometimes i can get pretty childish with thing like this.

Gym?

That's ranks very low. My priorities is god (I'm quite religious man), career and money, cars and diecast, and i guest the next is still girl.

I think i'll try to go without any of th girl first and see how things going

Lekker > Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. 05/19/2014 at 08:52

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I would simply let everything cool off and go be you. As many say, do you. Whatever it is that means, work harder, work out more, go for cruises, play games. Whatever makes you who you are, and you will see things align themselves. The way I put things is, love is like a fart. If you push it, its gonna be shit. Why push any of the two relationships? By the time you realize it, you will have answered your own question. But I sincerely suggest some clarity time for you before making any other moves. For a while.

Good luck sir :)

JGrabowMSt > Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. 05/19/2014 at 09:00

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This ex...why is she the ex? This is important for you to remind yourself, and not forget.

Your current girlfriend, shes stressed by work but you arent concerned enough to put work into the relationship? This I dont understand. Relationships arent easy, both of you need to work. Are you willing to just let go of what you have now to just to go back to the same problems that led to a breakup? I hate to say it, but people do not change for relationships. People change for survival, but dating an ex is not so great. You need to move on. Yes, it will be hard, but you have to learn that, better now than later in life.

Your current relationship is suffering greatly ftom neglegence. If you arent happy, get out now, but stay single for a while. I think what youre doing now is very wrong, but at least you are asking for help, and thats always the best step to start with. Youre expecting your current relationship to be like old ones, and its never going to be. Enjoy your memories, dont try to relive them.

Call your current girlfriend and talk to her. Dont text, dont email, actually talk. Find out whats been going on the past couple months, and make your decisions to keep going or not. Leave your ex in your memories and the past, and move on. Its not easy, no one ever said it would be.

Alex B > Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. 05/19/2014 at 09:05

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I'm confused, above you just said "I'm quite religious man", but I for some reason think your a girl. XD

The Compromiser > Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. 05/19/2014 at 09:28

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boobytrapsandtreasure > Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. 05/19/2014 at 10:50

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Dump your current girl friend. If she is that hard to contact you need to take a walk. Tell her you need someone that is more present.

Remove yourself from the picture with regards to your ex. You're 22 and have lots of growing up to do. If she's in love with a co-worker let her have him. Until you are mature enough to handle seeing her with someone else you need to take a walk. Tell her the truth if she asks why you disappeared. Tell her you are giving her space to have fun. Tell her that until you find the another great girl to take her off your mind you need to be out of the picture.

You're 22! Date, have fun, sew your oats.

samssun > Aya, Almost Has A Cosmo With Toyota Engine Owned by a BMW. 05/19/2014 at 15:36

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There's nothing like hitting the gym hard (heavy lifting, not just cardio) to focus, increase energy, and get your confidence up. And I don't think you should avoid girls entirely, just the ones you're stuck on. Go meet ten new ones and you'll have a very different outlook.